Every
symptom has its story.
Nevertheless, symptoms
are, especially in the name of professional efficiency and
profitability, often marooned from their story, leaving them
in the position of being little more than receptors “needing”
and therefore legitimizing various interventions, pharmaceutical
and otherwise.
Ahistorical symptoms are
perhaps most commonly -- and unquestioningly -- conceptualized,
used, and given reputable approval in the DSM-IV, the massive,
precisely ordered assembly of diagnostic and statistical criteria
generally employed by the psychiatric profession. And why?
Because running through a quick checklist of such symptoms
leads to a quick diagnosis, quick prescriptions, and quick
bucks.
However, even when symptoms are given a sympathetic, biographically-sensitized
ear, the history that belongs to -- and provides fitting sense
for -- for such symptoms usually is missing more than a few
pages. Key passages may be blurred, inaccessible to everyday
articulation, out of order, or placed between misleading or
otherwise unsuitable covers.
There may be a desire --
and not necessarily just on the part of those with the symptoms
-- to rewrite or recast the story in whole or in part, to
eliminate certain sections, to put the entire thing in the
grasp of an internal editor who at best is only superficially
known by us. We might even, with sufficient motivation or
“professional” encouragement, make up -- or take
up residence in -- a tale in which the eradication of symptoms
is equated with well-being: If we, so the story goes, can
just get far enough away from a troublesome symptom, then
we can, perhaps with medical aid, literalize it as a mere
thing, a kind of superimposition or inconvenience that we
need only subject to, say, psychiatric know-how (which, as
epitomized in the DSM-IV, apparently doesn’t need to
know causes in order to produce cures).
However, suppression of
a symptom is not necessarily equivalent to a cure. Confusing
symptoms with what they are but the presenting surface of
may bring us some relief, but does not heal us of our real
trouble.
It’s not news that
the satisfaction provided by suppression is only a partial
or superficial satisfaction. A reduction or apparent erasing
of symptoms may at times be of real use to us, but more often
than not only isolates us from what we may in fact actually
need to openly feel and be with. There are times when escaping
from our pain is useful, but real healing takes place when
we turn toward our pain, with compassion, undivided attention,
and minimal numbness.
If we insist on only treating
our symptoms as problems, then we will likely overabsorb ourselves
in their apparent solutions, and therefore will also probably
not recognize (and use) them as opportunities, tailor-made
entry points -- or fittingly personalized portals -- into
the very pain that we need to face, feel, and integrate.
Put another way, real satisfaction will very likely remain
out of our reach until we significantly encounter, embrace,
and make wise use of our dissatisfaction, letting neurosis
itself serve as a doorway into what underlies and sustains
it.
Connecting symptoms with
their roots -- getting as close as possible to their birthing
coordinates -- is not just a matter of psychological sleuthing,
but is also a spiritual undertaking, a journey into and through
raw, unedited need and feeling and trauma-imprints, a passage
from here to a deeper here. To thus enter our pain is to at
last make room for it, compassionate room. The more intimate
we are with our pain, the less we suffer.
Every symptom has its story,
but some -- or even most -- of that story may be held not
in everyday memory, but rather in sinew and tissue (as well
as in our neural and spiritual “anatomy”), needing
in many cases some preverbal articulation (or at least one
that is only secondarily verbal) and whatever else helps the
body speak its mind.
Consider Daniel Schreber,
perhaps Freud’s most famous case, who displayed many
unusual symptoms, not the least of which were tactile hallucinations
-- assaults against his eye and eyelid muscles, coccygeal
pain, severe compression of his chest, even a head-compressing
machine -- all of which reflected his having been literally
encased during his childhood in various pediatric devices
by his father (an influential pediatrician and “expert”
on child-rearing). Freud labeled Schreber -- whom he never
met -- as paranoid, suffering from delusions of persecution.
Amazingly, even though Freud was familiar with the elder Schreber’s
pediatric principles, he apparently saw no connection between
them and the psychosis of his son, presumably because of his
belief that reports of childhood abuse by patients were simply
fantasy, mere paranoia. If Schreber had been skillfully guided
into the deeper feeling of his childhood straitjackets (physical
and otherwise), and had been given room to openly feel and
express what he had not dared to feel and express about his
father, he may not have had to spend so many years locked
up in an asylum. No one actually told him he had been abused
by his father. Perhaps those simple words, spoken firmly but
with care, would have helped unlock him from his “solution”
to his long-ago (yet still emotionally and somatically present)
persecution.
And what was that “solution”?
Schreber created a framework of symptoms that could both contain
and permit some expression of what was torturing him without,
however, necessitating him having to directly confront and
recognize it. The spectacularly bizarre -- yet ultimately
coherent -- nature of his experience and behavior was an eloquent
confession of just how unbearable his inner situation actually
was. Schreber was stuck in the hell of his childhood, where
he had been surrounded and pervaded day after day, month after
month, year after year, by the grossly authoritarian dictates
of his father (whose obsession with the ultra-strict disciplining
of children was a fertile precursor for Nazi obedience). Rebelling
was not an option for Schreber, just as it isn’t for
abused children in general. His commitment to not letting
himself recognize the roots of his persecution complex drove
him mad. We go mad when we have to lie to ourselves.
And when we have to house
what is toxic to us.
Just as we, as a collective
social body, have to now store or contain enormous amounts
of radioactive waste in firmly sealed, densely walled receptacles,
so too does our body (in intimate conjunction with our mind)
have to similarly store or contain -- and keep as far away
as possible from our everyday consciousness -- whatever traumatic
imprints it has not been able to release. (Secondary releases
-- sexual and otherwise -- may make us feel a bit better,
but only briefly and superficially relieve us of the “outer”
stress resulting from the pressure and rising presence of
underlying trauma.)
Storing pain that cannot
be handled at the time is not just something that we do. It’s
a survival strategy that goes way back. Consider the amoeba.
Put it in water that’s been polluted with India Ink
granules, and it’ll actually absorb them and store them
in vacuoles (tiny self-contained cavities in the protoplasm
of a cell). Then put the amoeba in water that’s clean
-- a healthy environment -- and its vacuoles will move to
the edge of the cell membrane -- like surfacing trauma in
a healthy therapeutic setting -- and discharge the ink granules.
Our capacity, physical and otherwise, to isolate and encapsulate
trauma (so that the rest of our system can adequately function)
until we are in a truly safe environment continues to amaze
and move me. It isn’t so much that the trauma isn’t
markedly influential up until it surfaces as itself, but that
its very containment, however neurotically managed and compensated
for, has permitted organismic and personal survival. We may
have to “eat” it, we may have to swallow it, we
may have to act as if it’s not tearing at our insides,
but we do not have to digest it.
Our “vacuoles” aren’t literal containers
-- though they may appear to have specific bodily locations
-- but rather inner psychophysiological mechanisms that make
possible the repression of pain, especially unbearable pain.
The longer we wait
-- or have to wait -- to open the cell doors of such pain,
the more compensatory layers of “gatekeeping”
we will likely have to penetrate, including any identification
we might have formed with one or more of our survival strategies.
That is, if we are sufficiently invested in being the “I”
that is playing jailer, then any serious intent to release
-- or even to contact --what’s in the dungeon is probably
going to be threatening to us.
“Every
morning I wake up feeling sick. Every morning...” Karen’s
lips writhe in disgust as she describes her nauseous sensations.
It’s our first session. She isn’t on any medication, isn’t
pregnant, and does not actually vomit. Morning sickness,
mourning sickness -- a flicker of wordplay zips through
me, disappearing into Karen’s dark-rimmed, haunted eyes.
Her gaze flutters spasmodically, like a broken-winged bird,
while her body sits unnaturally mobilized, almost stonily
mute, as if having swallowed its testimony.
I ask
her what she feels sick about. She replies that she doesn’t
know, except for the fact that she’s been feeling depressed
for quite some time. Depressed about what? She doesn’t
know. She sits slumped, as if bearing an enormous weight,
complaining that her body feels numb.
“I feel
so shitty about myself,” she murmurs, looking down, her
eyes filling with tears. “Like I’m a nobody.” No body.
It’s as if her body’s housing something that makes her want
to vacate the premises, something that literally sickens
her. I have her lie on her back on my bodywork mat, with
her knees up, her feet flat, her eyes closed. Her body
is large, yet feels so, so small to me, almost too vulnerable,
as if marooned from any protection. For a while, she simply
completes various incomplete sentences I give her. Then
I gently put my hand on her belly, asking her to breathe
more deeply. Her abdomen is swollen and hard, seemingly
thickly walled, in contrast to her upper torso, which is
thin and bony, frail-feeling.
As she
breathes more deeply, with deliberate emphasis on the inhale,
I gradually work her diaphragm and hipcrest muscles a little
looser, leaving her belly alone. Her arms lie limply beside
her, pale and lifeless. By contrast, her jaw is tightly
locked, as if blocking entry to something. Or is it preventing
an exit, an expression or expulsion of some sort? As I
help her to loosen her jaw and to bring more energy to her
arms, her head spontaneously begins going from side to side,
and her fingers splay upward, as if contacting a heavy,
downpressing weight.
“No!”
Karen is now crying angrily, saying she feels sick. Her
anger quickly grows more intense. I have her squeeze my
wrists as hard as she can, while she screams “No!” over
and over again. Her abdomen is finally moving, rippling
and shuddering, no longer domed so high or tight. I release
her hands, asking her to make fists, hard fists, and to
pound down on the mat upon which she lies. As she does
so, I slowly work into her abdominal muscles. When I simultaneously
touch, with moderate pressure, both her solar plexus and
her lower belly, she explodes with feeling, her legs shaking
uncontrollably, her voice wild and hurt and overflowing
with fury, in rough resonance with her now surgingly alive
body.
“Who
are you saying ‘No’ to?” I finally ask.
“I don’t
know!”
“Look
more closely.”
“I --
It’s can’t be him!” Now she is very frightened.
“What
do you see?”
“There’s
someone standing in my doorway...” Her voice is very high
and quite faint. I hold my hands still, on her belly and
forehead. “It can’t be him...”
“Who?”
“My....
father.”
“What’s
he doing?” Now she is incoherent, crying very hard. She
starts to gag. As I cradle and turn her head slightly,
she spits out a lot of mucus, but doesn’t vomit. “What’s
making you feel sick?”
“Him!
He disgusts me!”
“What’s
he doing?” Now she is scared again, saying that she doesn’t
know, and then that she does not want to know. “How old
are you?” I ask. Three or four, she says without hesitation,
adding that she’s being touched “there,” and that “it” is
being pushed into her mouth.
Again
she gags, then is silent and very, very still. Her body
feels vacant, gutted, deserted. She’s had plenty for this
session; for maybe twenty or thirty minutes, I simply sit
beside her with my hands on her forehead and belly as she
softly cries and gradually fills out again, her attention
following my slowly spoken “reembodiment” and relaxation
directions. The room becomes still, peaceful, soft.
I tell
Karen that we’ve just begun, and that it’s a good beginning.
For years, she has worked as a counsellor for sexually abused
women, not suspecting (at least very seriously) that she
too may have been similarly abused. We don’t talk about
whether or not “it” actually occurred or not -- it is not
time for that, and may not be for a while.
Having
a strong sense now of what she feels sick about, she no
longer feels any nausea. Nevertheless, I suspect that she
will not stop feeling sick until what she has swallowed
and stored deep inside has been allowed to fully surface.
Until then her doorway will be blocked by “it,” and her
depression will be the “pressing down” that, however unpleasant,
is still preferable to openly feeling that in her which
is most directly threatened by “it.”
The suppression
of symptoms like those of Karen is often indicative of so-called
dissociative disorders. Those who endured extreme abuse as
children are often capable of, or even prone to, dissociating
from their physicality -- that is, vacating that which feels
the suffering -- when sufficiently painful difficulties arise.
I’ve “seen” some clients almost instantaneously
separate from their bodies when old trauma is on the rise,
such “parting” involving a radical relocation
of attention to “places” where their pain does
not have to be felt. For them, healing necessitates, among
other things, an ongoing conscious and compassionate reembodiment.
Their original “place” of refuge may disappear,
being no longer needed, or it may be integrated with the rest
of their psyche, perhaps serving -- as is often the case with
the psychically gifted -- as a kind of launching pad for deep
intuition and visionary treks.
Back to Daniel Schreber:
No one at the time questioned his incarceration, nor provided
an environment in which he could begin to heal, nor considered
that the very conditions under which he was being kept --
including solitary confinement for years -- might be contributing
to his insanity. Though Freud did take Schreber’s past
into account, he not only viewed it through the lens of his
highly speculative assumptions, but also did not -- in a foreshadowing
of much of current psychiatric practice -- include the social
and historical variables of the times. He related not to Schreber,
but rather to those of his symptoms that fit or appeared to
legitimize his psychoanalytic theory.
Did Freud actually care
about Schreber? Apparently not.
In clinical settings, caring
still often remains peripheral to theorizing and classifying,
in part because caring is overassociated with the feminine
-- or traditionally less rational and thus supposedly less
reliable -- and theorizing and classifying are overassociated
with the masculine -- or traditionally more rational and thus
supposedly more reliable. In the ethical guidelines of the
American Psychological Association, there is not one mention
of compassion. And so too with the DSM-IV. An oversight? I
don’t think so. Compassion is just too “soft”
and too qualitative -- and too closely associated with feeling
on the part of the clinician -- for the disembodied rationality
that dominates the above texts.
The less caring I am toward
clients, then the less likely I am to view (and work with)
their symptoms in a manner that truly serves their well-being.
In the presence of insufficient caring, symptoms -- in conjunction
with their interpretations -- tend to take up too much room.
The less caring I am (which may masquerade as clinical objectivity),
then the less involved I am, and the less involved I am, then
the less moved I am to explore more deeply and more creatively
the circumstances (both inner and outer) in which my clients
finds themselves. It is easier then to rely -- or to overrely
-- on what I already know, to cushion myself with knowledge
and merely rational probes into what is troubling my clients.
It is all too easy to dissect clients’ stories, and
to fit the resulting fragments into the handiest classification
scheme.
Schreber had little or
no caring from those in whose “care” he found
himself, so he -- very understandably -- created an exaggerated
pseudo-caring for himself (to make it real would have brought
him too close to his pain), making himself sufficiently important
or visible in his religious fantasies so as to be extremely
attractive to many “departed souls.” Not real
people, but phantoms, attracted to him, needing him -- what
a poignant reflection of his longing to be truly wanted! I
wonder how Freud would have fared if he had been locked up
and treated as was Schreber. Is it not possible that Freud
identified with the elder Schreber and his rejection of his
son? Did not Freud, like Schreber’s father, also cling
to his authority, rejecting “son” after “son”
(Adler, Jung, Rank)?
And, more to the point,
do we not all, to varying degrees, tend to reject or ostracize
our own madness, treating it as a pathogen (and hence something
to pathologize), instead of giving it a compassionate ear?
Every symptom has its story,
but we won’t have full access to the essence of the
story without actually entering the symptom and connecting
-- more than just intellectually -- it with its roots.
However, symptoms cannot be understood simply in the context
of inner psychological development (or lack thereof), for
they are functions both of one’s inner and outer environments,
on many levels. To recognize this means to engage in an ecologically
literate dialogue with one’s symptoms, until they are
liberated from the stigma of being pathologized as things-to-eradicate.
Then what underlies them can receive the focus it deserves.
We can’t just bury the garbage somewhere else and then
assume that we’ve cleaned up -- what is not working,
what is diseased or toxic, is spilling out of therapy chambers
into the community at large, demanding more than just more
analysis and sanitary engineering.
Will we continue merely designing better umbrellas for acid
rain, or will we really listen, taking the necessary journey
into and through the unhealed wounds that populate our common
asylum?
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